After having my daughter, I reached out to some of my fellow mom friends. I asked them: Was I compassionate enough? Was I there for you? Did I offer you support?
At such a vulnerable time, all at once, you are joyous, overtired, isolated and excited to be a mom. You realize your assumptions about your "already mom friends" were misguided and non-sympathetic. Transitioning into your new phase of life is HARD. You're leaving behind the old you, for a new nametag and uniform. Your responsibilities are endless and some days- you don't know if you're coming or going.
I could have never prepared myself for this stage (even if I tried) and wouldn't change it if I could. Some days I feel lost and others I feel quite amazing. I have a beautiful baby girl who is the best thing that has ever happened to me. She has taught me to love unconditionally, ask for help when needed, to be present and to always be grateful, even when it's a struggle.
So, as I reflect on 365 days of motherhood, I leave you with this: Know that everyone is doing their best and yes, your best may look different than mine. Know that what works for some may not work for all and have compassion for one another- it’s the best we can offer.